I am just so sad and no one understands......

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I am just so sad and no one understands......

Postby soverysad » Tue Jul 03, 2007 10:14 am

Hi....I don't know if I have this posted in the right place even and don't really know what replies to expect...
My son was born very prematurely with severe disabilities. I desperately tried to cope with him but sadly couldn't. My relationship broke down with the father and he left. I met my lovely new partner and had a little girl with him, believing this little baby would improve my son as he would copy her movements etc. but sadly this was not to be and his disability widened. We, as a family, just couldn't cope and I had a break down. My son had to go into foster care, very specialised care where all his demands were met. My older daughter resented me at first but has now realised that we weren't coping. After nearly a year we all knew that he couldn't come home and I made a decision to let him be adopted as a family who give him respite care wanted to adopt him. I now am coming up to a goodbye visit and I am dreading it. I want him to know that I love him so much and just want what is best for him. It is all so sad. I keep tormenting myself. He has learning disabilities and may never be able to understand any of this. I just want him to know that he is loved as much as my other children and that I never stop thinking of him. I have decided to have letterbox contact as direct contact I just couldn't cope with and it would be too distressing for him as he would unsettle. I am sorry for rambling on but thank you for taking the time to read.
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Postby Purples Mum » Sun Jul 08, 2007 1:48 pm

My thoughts are with you flower it is never easy making a decision like this. At least you have the letter box and you will be able to keep up with how he is doing. Keep your chin sweetie if you want to talk you can always pm me.

Big hugs
Beth xx
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Postby dannii09 » Wed Jul 08, 2009 7:17 am

I am a bit late to this but I understand. My birth daughter was placed for adoption 2 years ago after being born with disabilities.
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